I just gotta see if I am completely wrong in this, or if I am just slightly wrong. I am sick of teen drama, and it has only been going on for a day. A while back Heaven got into an argument with one of her “friends” a little background is needed here I think.
This friend has been on the “you can’t have anything to do with” list several times. #1 time, the friend and Heaven were sharing passwords (yes a mistake), and the friend emailed nasty things to a different friend. I know this as I had a keylogger program (as well as logged everything else), and it wasn’t sent from our computer. The second friend in question is never allowed to talk to Heaven again. I don’t blame the parents, but Heaven didn’t do it. This was a few years ago, so we are talking sending nasty stuff to a 13 or 14 year old boy.
#2 Ever seen mean girls? This “friend” made a call to a girls house and left a message that the girl was pregnant. Even though with caller ID, they knew who had made the call, this friend said Heaven did it.
#3 We picked Heaven up from the movies one time and this “friend” was there, and was on drugs. The kind where you chew on your own face, some sort of speed.
Now this newest drama. The “friend” got mad at Heaven because she was jealous of a different friend Heaven had. They both acted immature about it (my daughter as well). The “friend” was saying things like “you are so poor your clothes never fit” (I laughed after all my mom just spent $500 on Heaven’s cloths), “at least my parents are together” and anything else mean she could think to say. This was all on text message, and yes I read the text message. My daughter did something silly, because she was mad. She broke a DVD that she had borrowed from this “friend.”
Now I have stayed out of it, after all other than to tell Heaven this “friend” isn’t a friend, and she needs to stay away from all contact with her, I figure it is up to Heaven to do whatever needs to be done. So I am on myspace today, I know shocker, Heaven’s grandfather messaged me, so I was responding, and guess who contacts me? (I am generally friends with Heaven’s friends, as I monitor them to a degree so I know what is going on.) Anyway, she pretends to be her mother, and tells me I need to punish Heaven as well as pay for the movie.
Convo: her – hi, my mom would like to have a little talk with you. hi this is (insert name), I would really appreciate if you would disaplin your daughter for trashing the movie (insert name) bought. She let Heaven borrow it the day she bought it. So if you would please drop twenty dollars off in the mail box or a new one. Thanks (Discipline was spelled that way.)
Me: You have to take that up with Heaven. I am not involved, and I am not getting involved. Nor am I going to pay any money for her actions, you will have to get Heaven to pay for her own actions.
Her: she is your daughter
Me: She is close enough to being an adult, that unless it is very important it is up to her to take care of her own problems.
Her: i payed thirty dollars for (name here) to have that movie.
Me: Listen if you want to talk to me about it give me a call; (my phone number). I am not going to have this conversation on myspace.
So I thought about it, and thought about it. I called the mom. Did I mention I don’t like her even a little bit? No, well I don’t. So I called, talked to her and asked her if everything was taken care of with the movie. Now it is from the phone so I am giving generals not exact words as I can’t remember the exact words. She basically tells me, no but she isn’t going to push it. Tells me basically what a pain in the rear my daughter is, and that it was a movie the entire family would enjoy and the money came out of her pocket for the money… So I just say ok, ok, ok… After all I am not calling to get into a fight with this woman, I have done that before.
(The “friend” was calling every fifteen minutes because Heaven and her were in a fight, it was on the caller ID, Dustin had to work. It was a couple of years ago. So I called back to ask the “friend” to quit calling, as it was interrupting the sleep of the family. The mother answered the phone. I asked to talk to the “friend” to which the mother said, “do you know what time it is?” To which I said yes, but that the daughter was calling over and over and I was calling to ask her to stop, as Heaven had asked her to stop without success. She tells me her daughter is asleep and there is NO way she is making the calls. To which I tell her I have caller ID and the last call was a couple of minutes ago. She tells me “fine, I will take care of my daughter, you take care of yours.” end of convo) So nope I don’t like this woman.
To end: I have no intention of paying for the movie, making Heaven pay for the movie, or for Heaven to be in trouble for the movie. She knows she acted immaturely, which is all being in trouble would be for. However, since she knows and is appologetic I am not doing it. I realize that in a small way it is wrong of me, as I feel the way I do because of my own immature behavior, after all I don’t like these people.
Any words of wisdom out there? Am I so wrong, I should do some other course of action, or am I just wrong but you don’t blame me? Oh, one other thing the reason for the fight in which she kept calling that night? She told Heaven I was a slut, and I slept with everyone in town. I didn’t really care, as I know that isn’t true, so I actually kind of thought it was funny. However, Heaven was pissed and told her to never talk to her again.
OH, and Heaven has to block her from her cell, block her from her email, myspace and so forth. I am sick of this girl. She is a druggy (I know for sure, as she asked my daughter via text messages I have read several times), she is a bad person (not only the above, but she is willing to lie to someone older than her about her age so they will date her, last one was 24, also read the text messages), and so on… I am sick of the girl, and hope that Heaven has finally had enough too.
No one is suggesting single payer, no one is suggesting Canadian care or any other place. (Well I am, and a few others. However, it isn’t what Obama is going for.)
